Sex Drive During Pregnancy

What is your sex drive like during Pregnancy?

Changes in sex drive
During pregnancy you may notice a lot of physical and emotional changes. Your breast size increases, and so does your belly. You could also experience severe mood swings and numerous changes in your sexual feelings. A lot of pregnant women could go through fluctuating sexual feelings during the whole nine months of pregnancy.

What does sex drive mean?
Sex drive refers to a person’s natural craving to have sex. It is also referred as libido. On attaining puberty, the pituitary gland in the brain, indicates the body to start generating sex hormones. These hormones aid in ovulation, menstruation and determine sex drive. A woman’s libido is ascertained by estrogen and progesterone levels. Physical well being and self-esteem also influences libido.

Sex drive when pregnant
During pregnancy, you may observe a change in your sex drive. It could either increase or decrease. Such changes are common and it is usually a normal part of pregnancy. It is not abnormal and its certainly not a cause to be worried about.

Usually, during the first trimester the sex drive could decrease due to morning sickness or fatigue. During the second trimester, the libido could increase as some women may feel more energetic. During the third trimester of pregnancy, libido levels could decrease as the belly increases as the time of birth approaches causing several discomforts in daily life. The concern of your baby’s safety could also have effects on your sex drive, mentally and physically.

Increase in sex drive
Many pregnant women may find that their sex drive has increased greatly during pregnancy. The reason for this is because of the increase in progesterone and estrogen levels that result in an increased libido and sexual satisfaction. These changes could enhance lubrication of the vagina, highly sensitive breasts and nipples and an increase in blood flow to the pelvis.

Decrease in sex drive
Some women could also face a severe reduction in libido during pregnancy which is also quite normal. Usually in the first trimester some woman could have morning sickness or experience fatigue which could reduce sex drive. Weight gain or changes in the body could make sex uncomfortable or self conscious. Some women could be concerned about the baby’s safety during sex which could also influence libido whether it be consciously or unconsciously.

Women who are interested in boosting their sex drive while pregnant should try a sexual gel or cream enhancer. During pregnancy most medications should be avoided unless stated otherwise by your doctor, even if its herbal. It would be best to consult with your doctor before taking any sexual enhancements in pill form or any other medications. A gel or cream would be safest form of sexual enhancement while pregnant.

Considering partner’s sex drive
One should consider your partner’s libido which could also change during the woman’s pregnancy. Some men may find their partners more sexy during pregnancy, while others may possibly find the opposite. Some men worry about the baby’s health which could reduce their sex drive consciously or unconsciously.

Handling sex drive when pregnant
In case you are worried about the changes in your sex drive, you could benefit by:
-Talking to your doctor about any changes in your sex drive and safe sex suggestions.
-Discuss with your partner ways to satisfy each others’ needs while taking the baby’s safety into consideration.
-Try sexual positions in which you feel comfortable to make sex pleasurable.
-Trying some sexual gel or cream enhancers for increased moisture, stimulation, and sensations.

How to Educate Your Child About Sex

Many parents think that talking about sex in front of their kids may harm their brain and take them in the wrong way. But this is totally a misconception. Even avoidance of sex education can make more harm to the kids. You may adopt the following methods to educate your child about sex.

1. Try to teach sex to your child in a matter of fact manner, in the same manner as you would talk about any matter with them.

2. Do not lecture. Be persuasive and sympathetic and make sure the child’s interest remains sustained and element of curiosity stays on.

3. If a child poses any question, during the course of sex education, that must be replied to allay his doubts and/or misconceptions.

4. Your discussion should not be around disclosure of biological factors alone. It should also include values, emotions, decision making also, since the young ones value such qualities.

5. Puberty begins from the tenth year, when physical changes like pubic hair, erection of clitoris, enlargement of breast and prominence of nipples, menstruation etc start taking places. So, it is always better to educate the child about sex before the said changes surface.

6. Electronic media, porno magazines and literature, x-rated films have already enhanced children’s knowledge about homosexuality, heterosexuality, prostitution, masturbation, self-abuse or child-abuse, etc. So, such aspect must also be part of a parent’s sex education program.

7. Tell your child what is erection of penis and of clitoris and also what is masturbation, especially to girls. Also explain how and when venereal diseases, AIDS, HIV problems set in. Respond to child’s enquiries in a receptive, sympathetic and friendly way, so that they don’t feel that they have been landed in an awkward position. Let them stay normal.

8. Include and encourage your child to put any question, concerning the subject, to you and, when asked, be simple explicit.

Advantage of Sex Education

1. It will lay emphasis on behavioral, biological, psychological, cultural, clinical aspects.

2. Sexual problems can be prevented by better sex education.

Causes of Premarital Sex

There is no behavior without reason. We need to examine reasons why Christian youths do fall into the sins of fornication.

Please note that sexual relationship is divided into three, namely:

(a) Premarital sex (fornication)

(b) Pure (Holy or Legal) sex

(c) Extra – marital Sex (Adultery)

Premarital sex is what most youths engage in before marriage while extra-marital sex is what some married people indulges in, when they are not faithful to their partner. Pure, holy or legal sex is the only legitimate sex, it occurs between married couples. It is Holy and wonderful, God loves it and it brings purity. What we will be talking about here is premarital sex which the Bible calls fornication. It is not fun, it is not love-making but fornication. It is sin, I would have agreed if it is called lust making.


(1) Pressure: Pressure from parents, friends, peer group, lecturer, boss, future partners. Some men do mount pressure physically on their partners while some ladies mount pressure on their partners by dressing carelessly exposing their nakedness to seduce men. Some male bosses in places of work do mount pressure on their female workers, they want girls that can work for them and still satisfy them sexually.

(2) Curiosity: Many youths have engaged themselves in premarital sex as a result of curiosity. They thought they were searching for reality, but they ended up destroying themselves. They are not satisfied with what their parents, pastors and christian friends told them concerning sex, they want to experience it themselves.

(3) Electronic media: Television, film, radio and video has contributed to the high rate of premarital sex. What youths watch on screen determine their behaviour and character. Every product advertised on T.V. is just promoting sex. In fact, to advertise food items they use sex, film, television and radio promotes premarital sex. Most home videos are sex promoters.

(4) Books and Magazines: Some satanic authors are in town destroying the youths, they write some sexual stories, books and magazines, they bring out many pictures that stimulate the youth to think about sex always. Having read all these books, youths do become restless until they have put into practice what they learned in the books and magazines.

(5) Environmental influence: We live in a corrupt society where people do not see anything bad in ungodliness they do not see premarital sex as sin; they see it as a normal thing. Hence, girls are encouraged to dress exposing their bodies. Premarital sex has become the norm of the society. Some Christian youths find it difficult to cope in this kind of environment; hence, they fall into this ungodly act.

(6) Covetousness: Greed for money, wealth and position is another cause of premarital sex. Some ladies want money at all costs hence they are ready to use their bodies to get it by sleeping around with men.

(7) Indiscipline: Lack of discipline has led many singles into the dungeon of premarital sex.

(8) Wrong association: This has led many youth into destruction. Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are.

(9) Ignorance: Lack of good sex education has led many youth into premarital sex, some went into it not knowing what they were doing.

(10) Wrong information: Since parents have refused to educate their children on the subject and the church is not forth coming with anything meaningful, the youth have resorted to any information they can get from anywhere either wrong or right.

(11) Bad parenting: Children that are not well brought up are likely to fall into wrong hands.

(12) Idleness: An idle hand is the devil’s workshop. If you are idle, you may cuddle the devil.

(13) Loneliness: Some claim they went into fornication due to loneliness.

(14) Broken homes: Children from broken homes can fall into wrong hands due to the situation of their homes.